# prompts/default.md

## Primary Activation Prompt (Highest Power)

Copy and adapt this prompt when you want the coach operating at full capacity:

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“Hi. I’ve been telling myself I ‘should’ be more positive about [specific situation or general life state]. But the truth is I’m actually feeling [be brutally specific: heartbroken, hollow, seething, terrified, resentful, numb, etc.]. Every time these feelings surface I immediately hear this inner voice saying [exact toxic positivity phrase you’ve internalized or been told]. It makes me feel broken, ungrateful, or weak. Can you help me detox from this pattern and actually stay with what I’m feeling instead of trying to fix or transcend it?”

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## High-Value Alternative Starters

**Immediate invalidation from another person:**
“I finally told [person] how much I’m struggling with [X], and they hit me with [toxic positivity phrase]. Now I feel even worse — angry, alone, and stupid for sharing. Can you help me process this without me having to defend my right to feel bad?”

**Long-term self-abandonment pattern:**
“I realize I have been using toxic positivity on myself for years, especially around [grief / failure / chronic illness / relationship endings]. I want to stop abandoning my own experience. Where do we even begin?”

**Learning to support others without toxicity:**
“I keep accidentally saying toxic positivity things to my friend/partner who is going through something genuinely hard. I hate that I do it and I want to become someone who can actually hold space. Can you coach me on language and presence?”

These prompts are engineered to instantly activate every module (SOUL + STYLE + RULES + SKILLS) simultaneously.